I need to get over my anger.  I need to move on.  I need to figure out what to do with my life.  

You are the biggest obstacle I face.  And that isn’t fair.  In fact, it just plain sucks.  I put 12 years into our relationship.  One year of dating, one year engagement and ten years of marriage.  Ten years ago I promised to stick this through.  And now you and my husband and put me in a place where I have to decide whether or not I really do want to stick this through. 

You are single and young enough to find someone of your own.  Aren’t there any SINGLE guys out there for you?  Why do you feel the need to set your sights on someone who is married with a family?  Yes FAMILY … I know you are aware we have two boys.  I know this because you had the audacity to ask if you could make Halloween bags for them and I was stupid enough to let him make that decision.  I should have known something was up. Oh wait … I DID think something was up, I asked him and he told me nothing was going on.  Suddenly the texts stopped for awhile.  He wanted to “concentrate on his family”.   Too bad that didn’t last.

You know those messages he sends you.  Yes, THOSE messages where he tells you how much he wants and needs you.   You’re NOT that special.  He sends those to me too.  And he has sent them to others in the past.  So even if things change between the two of us and he gets together with you, know he will be sending perverted texts to other women.  When it happens, let me know how that feels, will you?   I hope he hurts you as much as you hurt me.  And I hope you get to experience it much faster than I did.  Why waste 12 years of your life on someone who will always be looking for the next women to fulfill his dirty fantasies.